What to Include in a Clairvoyant Reading?

If you have just started giving readings, you may need help finding a structure or understanding the information you share. 

My first year was challenging; my words were jumbled and jumped from one point to another, and I felt like I needed to be given more relevant information. It was when I met a wonderful mentor who gave me good advice on providing clear, concise, but evidential readings. 

Here is my advice on how to give confident readings.

 

Know Who You Are Going To/Who is The Message for?

Knowing who you are going to is important, especially if working on a Platform or in a group setting. We’ve all been to demonstrations where the Medium stands up and says, “I have an elderly gentleman; he’s giving grandfather energy.

Okay, but that could take a while in a room full of people.

Knowing who you are going to or the general direction is best.

Ask your Spirit Team or the Spirit themselves to give you a sign.

For me, it depends on the Spirit and location. Sometimes, they will stand behind their loved one or beside me but directly facing the client. And, of course, sometimes you just know.

 

Who Do You Have?

Who is with you? Grandmother, grandfather? Mothers’ or fathers’ side of the family? A childhood friend, an ex-colleague?

I know a Medium who uses the system; if they come from the left, it’s the mother’s side of the family and vice versa. I tried this, but I kept forgetting which side was which, so now they shout it at me, which works for both of us!

And remember, sometimes all you need to do is ask Spirit. I would spend ages trying to figure out who I had, and then one day, it hit me: just ask them!

 

How Did They Pass?

How did the Spirit crossover? Was it quick? Unexpected? A long illness?

Spirit will usually use your internal library to tell you how they passed. Sometimes, I’ll see them in a hospital bed surrounded by family, or I get chest pains.

Not all spirits will want to share how they transitioned, which can be due to several reasons (upsetting or irrelevant), which is perfectly fine. If that is the case, tell the client, “They won’t show me how they crossed over”. More often than not, the client will understand why that is the case.

 

Give Proof of Life

This is divided into two parts: 

1. Spirit will give you information about themselves: What they were like as a person? Funny, serious, quick-witted. What did they do for a living? Homemaker, accountant, fishmonger. What were their hobbies? How did they relate to others? Kind, loving, mean-spirited.
2. Spirit will give you information about the client’s life. What do they do for a living? Have they just booked a holiday or bought a new pair of shoes? What their relationship was like, if appropriate.

This is the critical part of the reading because this is where you will provide specific evidence of who you have with you and, of course, proof of an afterlife. 

I love this section because I learned so much about the Spirit, and it never disappoints. It’s like meeting someone new, and more often than not, it’s someone I’d typically not get a chance to meet in my day-to-day life.

If you’re not careful, this section can also be vague, “They were kindhearted”. That’s lovely, but give an example. Remember, Spirit wants to be recognised, and between them and your Spirit Team, they want to provide you with as much information as possible.

 

Why Have They Come Through?

Why they’ve come through and who they are is usually linked and often merge as a message.

There is a reason why that particular Spirit chose to come through. It can offer guidance, support, reassurance, or sometimes to say hello.

Discernment is essential; you never know someone’s mental state, so you may need to paraphrase the message.

I remember a few years ago, I gave a reading in a group setting, and the Spirit came through to provide the client with advice on her money problems. I noticed that her issues were severe, and she had kept her worries to herself. Rather than airing her laundry in public, I gave her a message of encouragement and guidance so that I knew her situation clearly but was respectful enough not to share it in front of strangers.

Lastly, Be Kind With Your Words

Most mediums will have a story of attending a demonstration and seeing an insensitive medium.

We don’t say “fat” if someone has a larger frame. If someone crossed over quickly, don’t say they “dropped dead”. Or, if it was a long illness, don’t describe the inns and out of it (I’ve seen many Mediums do this) as it’s unnecessary and unpleasant for everyone.

During a demonstration, a medium spent around five minutes describing how someone died of cancer. It was unnecessary; the client had confirmed they knew the Spirit within the first thirty seconds. It changed the energy in the room, and the client went from excited to upset to frustrated.

Once, a Medium told me Spirit said I’d be happier if I had children. I know my Spirit Team well enough to know that wasn’t what they meant, but I would have been devastated if I couldn’t have children or had lost a child.

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My rule of thumb is to imagine you are on the other end of the reading. How would you like to be treated? How would you like to feel? 

I hope these tips helped, and let me know if you have any to add.